You may have heard the old adage “sticks and stones can break my bones but words cannot hurt me”. A few days ago I became consumed with a heated dialogue with one of my colleagues about “people hurting people”. He maintained his position that someone can hurt another person’s feelings with their words. I argued with him that only physical things can hurt the person of another. To further expand, I explained that your interpretation or receipt of a person’s actions which might create emotional hurt is a personal responsibility and not that of the other person. If words were capable of hurting ones feelings then everyone would feel the same pain from the same words as if struck by a baseball bat. I am not saying that people don’t say mean and derogatory words or some relationship are not filled with unhealthy language. What I am saying is how you interpret those words, then and only then, can your feelings create your own hurt. I say all of this to say, stay free from persons who choose language that is not conducive to success. Only surround yourselves with people that speak positive words. This might mean looking for new “friends” or analyzing all of your relationships at work, church, school or even socially. Therefore, never tell someone that they have hurt you with words. That’s your responsibility to develop the right environment, relationships and sphere where you are most free from “sticks and stones” and where words as “you” interpret them won’t hurt you. Ponder this!
Let’s positively influence people and build successful nations.