Sticks and Stones: Don’t let words divide

You may have heard the old adage “sticks and stones can break my bones but words cannot hurt me”.  A few days ago I became consumed with a heated dialogue with one of my colleagues about “people hurting people”. He maintained his  position that someone can hurt another person’s feelings with their words.  I argued with him that only physical things can hurt the person of another. To further expand, I explained that your interpretation or receipt of a person’s actions which might create emotional hurt is a personal responsibility and not that of the other person. If words were capable of hurting ones feelings then everyone would feel the same pain from the same words  as if struck by a baseball bat. I am not saying that people don’t say mean and derogatory words or some relationship are not filled with unhealthy language.   What I am saying is how you interpret those words, then and only then, can your feelings create your own hurt. I say all of this to say, stay free from persons who choose language that is not conducive to success. Only surround yourselves with people that speak positive words. This might mean looking for new “friends” or analyzing all of your relationships at work, church, school or even socially. Therefore, never tell someone that they have  hurt you with words. That’s your responsibility to develop the right environment, relationships and sphere where you are most free from “sticks and stones” and where words as “you” interpret them won’t hurt you. Ponder this!

Let’s positively influence people and build successful nations.

Cleansing Your Thoughts!

Often times I wish some days could be “say as you wish day”. With this post, my intent is to put aside structural writing, close my eyes and write whatever comes to mind when I focus on the words success and great. Here goes…

Release the lions and let them roam the lands where their manes can grow and become one with the shrubbery. Dance Mary, let your hair not reach the floor and slow your moves of grace. Before she was my lover she was my friend; an energetic spirit of calm, resolve, laughter and easy to love. Never say never when never appears to be your only choice. Breathe and engulf the air that once consumed your chest. If a President is to be great, their love of people must burst at the seams of his suit jacket; their voice must be passionate and believable and their motions and gestures must come from their guts.

After doing this exercise, I stopped, reflected on the post and tried to analyze what motivated these specific thoughts. Well, the post about the lion, although I thought it came out with some possible bit of wisdom, I realized that it was motivated by the fact that earlier in the morning I saw a CNN post that Snoop Dog had changed his name to Snoop Lion. The post about Mary dancing, again I realized I saw a commercial about a Dancing with the Stars reunion. I searched hard about the post about love and about saying never and realized that a recent conversation about love that I thought was settled is still very much on the fore of my conscience. I never realized this was still on my mind. I am still struggling with the words on the President but can only assume that the heated US presidential election race might be of greater interest to me than I thought.

This simple exercise taught me to always stop and take time to analyze the thoughts that might be lingering in your brain without your awareness. After this exercise, Snoop’s new name will definitely be removed but I am going to revisit this love matter urgently. Imagine what our minds might be processing without our awareness? You should try this one day and write what is on your immediate mind without thinking. Continue to join me as we positively influence people and build successful nations. Try this exercise.

Be A Cheerleader!

We are so active at sporting events, cheering sometimes until we lose our voices, for the team’s star players. We also follow the lives of our favorite athletes, celebrating their successes, somehow seemingly feeling pain and anguish when they don’t realize success. What is strange about this world craze of cheering for athletes, is we often times have never met them, nor do we really know their real character. Most often we might only experience more than three hours in their presence, if we are lucky.

With the foundation of cheering for our athletes and screaming for their successes, let’s ask ourselves a very simple question: who am I cheering for in my everyday life? The world is missing everyday cheerleaders. These individuals on a day to day quest, celebrate the success of others along with their own. An everyday cheerleader sends cards, notes and words of encouragement to persons around them that have reached significant milestones in their lives. Too often we cheer for the NBA Champions and don’t celebrate the simple accomplishments of those “unsung superstars” closest to us.

So the next time you shout for your favorite athlete or celebrity, stop, look around you, and celebrate the success of everyday people in your lives or within your community. Who knows, a word of congratulations or the celebration of an achievement might just be a small investment in a future athlete, celebrity or person of influence.

Let’s celebrate the success of others, positively influence people and build successful nations.

My Prayer

For all of the abundance of riches that I am convinced will be poured unto my life, my thoughts and prayers are always rather simple. Below, I share them with you.

My prayers have always been for guidance, strength and protection. My asking for guidance is rooted in my desire to be strengthened with vision and clarity; guidance in making the right decisions and equally sight to see the path of life revealed before me.

Only through a strong body and mind can you fulfill life’s mission which has been set for you. Guidance without strength is akin to stored energy without action. My prayers of strength are about physical strength but allow mental strength. A sense of fortitude that allows me to withstand life’s challenges.

Throughout life, for reasons within, but most of the time outside your control, bad things happen to and around you. While my belief is that all experiences occur to better prepare you for the future, sometimes life’s challenges can come at you without warning. For these unforeseen challenges and sometimes bad will of persons, I pray for protection. This prayer affords me the comfort in knowing that no matter where I travel, my being will be protected.

Simply, I pray for guidance, strength and protection. My prayers guide me as I innately focus on positively influencing people and building successful nations. What’s your prayer?

I See Something “Special”

There are some people in life who you find possess something “special”; something different. You often refer to them as being extraordinary or gifted. Many times it is even hard to put into words what you see in them but you know it’s something great, a certain “je ne sais quoi“.

Here is the strange reality about most of these persons – they most often do not realize this (greatness) within themselves. It’s the vision of one person or the intuition of another which recognizes the greatness in these beings. It’s the relationship where a coach takes personal interest in the growth of a player after seeing something “special” in him. It is also the words of the mentor whispered into the ears of the mentee, “you are great.” Whatever the relationship, please note that while we are placed on this earth to grow ourselves into greatness, we are primarily here to recognize and nurture the greatness in others. Universal law understands that facilitating greatness in others reaps greater rewards for you. Give and you shall grow.

Let’s positively influence people and build successful nations.

Empowerment: The Book of Musings

Below our Chief Inspirer shares musings geared to inspire and empower you. These thoughts when combined with others provide the foundation for FlashEffect’s soon to be launched book entitled “Empowerment”.

When my inner desire is fixed on success, my passion towards achieving it is driven by an aggressive dedication. Passion is my fuel for success.

The deeper that I got into their thoughts and soul, I realized i was seeing a replica of my own. When you find this, do everything to keep it.

Pack light, carry no excess, prepare for a quick flight.

I figure sticking to what I know is the best way to ensure that I am in the same position 5 years later. Growth is extending beyond what you don’t know.

The difference between style & fashion? Style is you. Fashion is them.

The sweetness of a lemon is not realized until you add water and sugar. Live your life like a bartender, blending ingredients to make the perfect solution.

Please share these musings with others. Collectively we will renew our commitment to positively influence people and build successful nations.

Decipher This! Part Deux

I have resisted some of your requests for more decipher posts and have decided to give in. Decipher this!

The movement of the righteous mingled with the thoughts of the common mind defrauds the growth of mankind. The nucleus of a powerful society must be the championing of knowledge and its outlets which are intended to grow plants into forests. Rest assured that the excuses of yesterday that retarded growth have met their demise. The worldwide web has cast prongs and out-reached arms that will remove you from your current environment and propel you to another. No one is hiring fantasy seekers without requiring work to be the foundation. The world is watching you and holding you accountable for your contribution. Worry not about your naked state and approach life with faith and tenacity which when packaged together equals success. Hello? Are you listening?

Let’s positively influence people and build successful nations.

Surrender to Greatness

Much of our empowerment chats center around the attainment of greater self. I walk the same path as you in my quest for enlightenment. I will forever be a student of life, always learning and growing. The last few days have been character builders for me. I’ve had to be honest with myself and my intentions. Am I truly ready to make the sacrifices necessary to experience my greatest potential for being? Beyond sacrifice, am I ready to surrender all? What does surrendering all mean? Is there a difference? (Why, yes!) And where does my ego fit in? (Nowhere!)

For awhile now I’ve conspired with the Universe, praying for the manifestation of my innermost desire to bear witness to a love so powerful and authentic, a love supreme. I mean, I’m talking the Holy Trinity of love. One that encompasses being love, giving love and receiving love. I am prepared to sacrifice to attain the highest level of understanding I can master. And sacrifice I have done. Problem is, I have not surrendered to the very love I’ve spoken into existence. Herein lies my breakthrough: It’s possible we can be ready and willing to give it all up (sacrifice) but if we aren’t ready to give in (surrender) then what we have given up is for naught. I gave up the good to go for the great. Until I surrender to this greatness and am unafraid to share my light, I am hindering any progress garnered by my sacrifices. The fears that have surfaced are new to me. Still I refuse to let them prevent me from experiencing greatness or the authentic self, love I desperately seek. I am determined to walk through these fears.

My challenge to each of you on your climb to the peak is to surrender. If there is no surrender, we miss out on the opportunity to honor our dreams. Fears will surface. Use them as a moral compass. Disarm them. Let them make you stronger and wiser but never let them be a handicap in realizing greatness.

What has your journey in discovering your highest self been like? What have you sacrificed to attain this level of understanding? What fear dragons have you had to slay?

Let’s continue to positively influence people and build successful nations. I am on this journey with you. Together we are smuggling our daydreams into reality!

Creating Joy

Sometimes in life you experience joy on an immense level. It’s possible however while in a moment of joy you are so consumed with its magic and feelings of comfort, you might not even realize that you are in a space of rare calm. Through this post, I encourage you to savor your moments of joy. Breathe and allow it to consume your being. Maybe it’s a walk with your grandparents, or the art work that your child has drawn depicting you, or even realizing the simplicity of love and the joy this brings. Joy could be that someone in your life who engulfs your thoughts, sets your soul on fire and places you at a level of greatness. Some persons experience joy in helping others, caring for others and giving to the world. Others celebrate the teachings of their mentor and life coach as together they journey through life’s challenges. Whatever the reason which causes your injection of joy, remember this: Live life within your joy. Celebrate your joy. Be thankful for your joy. Add to your joy. Spread joy. Be joy-full.

Let’s positively influence people and build successful nations.